The Parenting Plan form provides a place for you to specify the agreement you have reached regarding the custody and visitation for your children. Often this is the most emotionally charged and difficult area for people to reach an agreement. However, in many ways deciding the custody arrangement for your children is the most important thing on which you and your spouse need to reach an agreement.
First, in most cases, who is better qualified to decide what is
best for their children than their parents? Second, unlike other
issues you must resolve when separating from your spouse the
obligation to care for your children is a responsibility you will
share until the children are on their own. Third, it gives you and
your spouse control over how your life will continue after your
If you eventually file for divorce and have not reached an
agreement regarding the custody of your children there is simply
no guarantees on how the judge will decide. Finally, if you have
an agreement that everyone can live with there is less likely to
be fighting and tension later.
This Parenting Plan is designed for people who have reached an
agreement regarding the terms of their separation. Keep in mind
that you are able to change the agreement to meet the needs of you
and your spouse, and it is a good idea to consult the laws
governing separation, and child custody in the state in which you
live or lived while married.
In particular it is important to note that the laws on child
custody differ from state to state, though the major factor used
by the courts in each state is the “best interests of the child”
standard. When drafting your parenting plan you should always
consider what is in the best interests of the children.
In addition, Separation Agreements and Parenting Plans use the terms “custodial” parent and “noncustodial” parent. Custodial parent means the parent with whom the child/children will live with the majority of their time and in general this parent will be responsible for the daily needs of the child/children.
Noncustodial parent refers to the parent that has the children less but has visitation and probably shares in the responsibility of making the major life decisions for the child/children. The terms used to describe child custody arrangements are not the same in each state. In most cases this information can be found at your local courthouse.